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Went to a meetup in Chicago and honestly didn’t expect the energy to be that strong

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I went to this little BNWO-themed social in Chicago last Saturday, mostly because a friend of mine dragged me along and I didn’t want to sit home scrolling Instagram all night. It wasn’t some huge club thing, more like a lounge near Wicker Park with music, drinks, and a bunch of people who already knew each other from Twitter and Telegram. I was nervous at first because I didn’t know what to expect, but everybody was actually pretty chill and way more welcoming than I thought. What surprised me was how much of the conversation was just normal dating stuff mixed with the culture talk. People were swapping stories about Hinge, FetLife, and even Bumble, then laughing about all the same dumb app experiences. I met one woman from South Side who was hilarious and kept roasting the whole “premium vanilla” dating scene, which had me cracking up. Has anybody else gone to these meetups or local gatherings? Are they usually that relaxed, or did I just get lucky with a good crowd?

Apr 7

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#1 · Apr 8

That actually sounds way better than I expected. I’m in Detroit and the few gatherings I’ve heard about always sounded more online than real, if that makes sense. Like people talk big on Twitter but never show up. A chill lounge setup seems perfect because it doesn’t force anything weird. The best parts are usually the normal conversations anyway. Once it stops being about trying to impress everyone, it gets easier to connect.

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#2 · Apr 9

I’ve been to two events in Atlanta and one in Dallas, and yeah, the energy can be all over the place depending on who shows. Some are super laid-back, others are kinda cliquey. The good ones usually have a mix of people who are actually there to meet others, not just post pics later. Chicago probably has a decent scene because there’s enough variety. If you go again, I’d just keep your expectations low and treat it like a networking thing more than a ‘find your person tonight’ thing.