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How do y’all deal with jealousy when your wife actually likes the guy?
I’m gonna be real, this lifestyle has been fun for us but it’s also brought up stuff I didn’t expect. My wife and I are in Charlotte, and we’ve been seeing a guy off and on for a few months now. He’s cool, he’s fit, he knows how to talk to her, and that’s kind of the problem because I can tell she genuinely likes him as a person, not just for the situation.
I thought I’d be fine with it, and most of the time I am, but every now and then I get in my head about it. Not because I think she’s leaving or anything, just that weird feeling when she lights up talking to him. I’m trying not to be insecure about it, but I also don’t want to pretend it doesn’t bother me a little. How do other husbands handle that without killing the vibe?
Apr 10
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bDVzdsOQfBeyPToZQaI think that feeling is way more common than people admit. Me and my wife are in Dallas, and the first time she really connected with a guy, I had to sit with that for a minute. What helped me was remembering that her enjoying someone doesn’t automatically mean I’m losing something.
We talk after every meet, even if it’s just a quick check-in on the drive home. Not in a heavy, dramatic way, just honest. If something makes you uncomfortable, say it early. Keeping it inside usually makes it bigger than it really is.
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lZDSQoLXyhHNEgtCfQKSame here, and I actually think a little jealousy isn’t always bad. It can remind you that the relationship matters and that this isn’t just some casual game. I’m in Miami and my wife has a regular guy she really likes, and at first I got weird about it too.
What worked for us was setting boundaries around emotional stuff. Fun is fine, connection is fine, but we don’t let it blur into anything that feels like a third relationship. If you know where your line is, it gets a lot easier to enjoy the rest without spiraling.
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