Forums Queen of Spades & QOS LifestyleHow do y’all actually meet other QOS women in real life?

How do y’all actually meet other QOS women in real life?

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This might sound dumb but I’m curious how people in here actually connect with other QOS women outside of this forum. I’m in Dallas and I’ve had way more luck being open on Feeld than on regular apps, but even then it’s hit or miss. A lot of guys say they’re into the lifestyle, but then when I bring up the queen of spades thing, they either get awkward or act like they only know the most basic stuff. I’m not really looking for a big scene or anything. I just want to meet women who actually get it without me having to explain every little thing from scratch. I’ve noticed a few pages on Twitter/X and some private Discords, but that can get messy fast. Do y’all mostly meet through apps, local events, or just from already being in the same circle? I’m trying to figure out what’s actually worth my time.

Mar 29

2 replies

Tyler R.

#1 · Mar 29

I’m in Philly and for me it’s been a mix of apps and just being social in the right spaces. Feeld was okay, but I had better luck being clear in my bio and not wasting time with people who were vague. I also met a couple women through a private IG group that a friend invited me into, and that ended up being way more chill than random DMs. The biggest thing is probably just finding people who understand QOS as more than a label. If somebody only knows the term from porn or hearsay, it gets old fast. I’d rather meet someone who gets the vibe and isn’t trying to turn everything into a weird conversation.

DeAndre W.

#2 · Mar 30

Same here, I’m in Houston and it’s definitely easier when there’s already a little trust built in. I met one of my closest QOS friends through a local lounge night in Midtown, which surprised me because I didn’t expect that kind of thing to happen in person. We were just talking and realized we had the same background and the same kind of boundaries, and from there it was natural. If you’re on apps, I’d say be specific but not overly detailed. Enough so the right people recognize you, but not so much that you invite every curious dude to waste your evening. And yeah, private groups can be messy, so I’d keep a little caution no matter where you meet people.