Feels like everybody stares when we go out in Atlanta
Me and my boyfriend have been dating about 8 months now and honestly it’s been really good, but going out in Atlanta is starting to feel weird sometimes. We’ll be at a brunch spot in Midtown or grabbing drinks in Buckhead and I swear people just stare a little too long. Not even in an obvious rude way every time, but enough that I notice it and then I get in my own head. He says he doesn’t see it as much, but I can tell he notices when I get quiet.
I’m a Black woman and he’s white, and this is my first interracial relationship. We met on Hinge, which I was already nervous about, and then everything clicked so fast I wasn’t really prepared for the attention that comes with it. Has anyone else dealt with that awkward feeling of being watched when you’re just trying to have a normal date? I don’t want to act like I’m ashamed or anything, but I also don’t want to ignore how uncomfortable it can be sometimes.
Mar 25
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connor odeaVIPADMINGirl yes, I’m in Charlotte and I’ve had the same thing happen. Me and my husband used to get stares all the time when we first started dating, especially at nicer restaurants or when we’d go to church events. It got easier once I stopped assuming every look meant somebody had an opinion. A lot of people are just nosy honestly.
What helped me was focusing on my man instead of the room. If I’m having a good time, holding his hand, laughing, whatever, that energy kind of drowns out the random people around us. And if someone actually says something rude, that’s on them, not y’all.
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Rachel KimBASICI’m a white guy dating a Black woman in Houston and I’ve noticed sometimes I’ll see the looks before she does. It used to make me tense up and act all serious, which made things worse. Now I just try to stay normal and not let strangers control the vibe.
I think it also depends on the area. Some places are just more mixed and nobody cares, and other spots feel like everybody’s watching for no reason. If the relationship is good, that matters way more than people staring for 10 seconds over their steak and mimosas.
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